hey jules! what's a girl to do? (the update)
on men gossiping, challengers, and boys kissing more
jules! my hero!
i wanted to give you an update (& a thank you <3) after my crazy weekend. some general disclaimers in response to your gorgeous advice: yes, i am now 100% certain that they are for real friends outside of work. spooky!!! and also...yes, i absolutely knew they were coworkers when i got myself into this mess. ...oops?
SO!
the night before my date with adam, he reaches out with a million apologies, saying he misread his schedule and he has a work commitment way earlier than he thought. (read: our date cannot go on as originally planned. yikes!) but his brilliant solution follows: we could meet at his workplace (!!!) for lunch a few hours before a company-wide meeting (that james is certain to ALSO be a part of) the next morning.
as you can imagine, i panicked.
two dates in the same DAY, one of which is at their shared workplace, hours before my date with the other one. i couldn't do it, jules! i freaked and i bailed! i told adam i was busy that morning, and we could plan something for another day. my saving grace here is that he's out of town for a week, so i could focus all of my attention on james in the meantime.
and...i CERTAINLY did. without going into too much detail, my date with james was wildly successful. yay <3
but here's the kicker, my darling jules. adam DID come up in conversation on my date with james. my worst nightmare came true. and...it was actually fine. james told me they're buddies, and they'd already talked about it, and he was not bothered by it at all. "it's nyc! everyone's hot!" (so true!) if anything, he seemed...kinda into it? like actually really down with the fact that i am also potentially getting with his friend? crazy...but also so hot???
so where am i now! still chatting with james, and feeling brilliant about that. still chatting with adam, and planning a date for when he's back home. feeling way less stressed about this situation and way more thrilled about it.
here's to my challengers era, jules. i couldn't have done it without you.
thank you bunches! mwah!!!! <3
– no longer in over my head!
oh my LORD. HELL YES.
okay so this is crazy and i’m SO GLAD you sent an update. first update ever!!!! wow!!!!!
i had a feeling they talked about it. if men love to do anything it’s gossip. how delicious! as long as things feel copacetic i say keep the party going. this sounds like a threesome in the making! of course take your time, keep communicating, and see if this is something you’d want to do and if they want to do. you’re hot though so i’m sure it’s their dream and they’d be lucky to have you. hopefully this is even better than challengers and the boys kiss even more!!
congrats on queening and diva-ing out and thank you for the update!!! mwah!!
xo
jules
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